I am a Sex and Intimacy coach working with couples and individuals across the globe. My interest in this field really began at a young age when I first saw Dr. Ruth Westheimer on a television show. Seeing that show started me down a path of realization that sex doesn’t have to be a subject we shy away from. I pay attention to details that some may not notice and perhaps because of my interest in this topic, I began to take inventory of all of the people (woman) that told me how dissatisfied they are with sex. Whether they are partnered or having casual sex, the truth out there is that a huge portion of the population is either not having sex (because they aren’t getting off anyway) or having sex but it’s not great !
When I looked around I recognized that I am the person that people feel comfortable and safe talking to me about their most intimate life stories. Sex and relationship coaching works when you can connect and feel ok being vulnerable. Trusting that your coach won’t judge anything you say, will empathize, and have ideas that are detailed and straight forward. You deserve to live this life in the full experience of who you are and that includes having sex and intimate relationships that blow your mind!
“Trust is like love. Both parties have to feel it before it really exists.”
Why I Do This
I chose to become a coach rather than a sex therapist because I want to connect on a different level with my clients. I provide a therapeutic relationship that takes into account not just headspace but also somatic transformation. I use my innate knowledge, years of studying people’s body language, and my intuition as well as genuinely curious nature during our sessions. I live my own life in authenticity and integrity and those parts of who I am are extremely important for me to uphold for myself.
What I Bring
Connection and Attunement: Emotional attunement is key to building strong and lasting relationships. It helps us forge deeper, more understanding relationships, enriching our lives and making our emotional landscapes more compassionate and fulfilling. The desire and the ability to understand and respect your partner's inner world.
Vulnerability: I won’t pretend to have it all figured out. Just as any coach does, I look for what areas need work and then together we practice those skills through coaching somatic (and other) exercises. I share emotions and erotic energy with clients as well as my own weaknesses, processes of growth, and mistakes. This is mindfully done on my part to take away any hierarchal structure that may exist between a client and facilitator.
Empathy: Putting myself in your shoes to deeply feel what you feel. Being able to support and honor, but not take away, your pain. I show clients tools for emotional self-awareness, self-soothing, and how to invite others to their support system.
Self-awareness. To break away from habitual patterns, I identify my personal shortcomings and strengths. It allows me to get comfortable with differences between myself and others, and helps me make choices that bring love, connection, pleasure, and intimacy into lives.
Embodiment: I am constantly learning to listen to my own embodied voice and help clients get out of their heads and into their own bodies to live in harmony with themselves and others. I embrace, rather than push down or aside, my unique feelings and emotions. I use my heart’s voice and my body’s mind to lead me in sessions.
““ I prefer to think of my [clients] and myself as fellow travelers a term that abolishes distinctions between ‘them’ (the afflicted) and ‘us’ (the healers)…
We are all in this together and there is no therapist and no person that is immune to the inherent tragedies of existence.””
In my own words
I believe in a lot of ideas and philosophies about life in general. I am a deep thinker, not much of a small talker. I believe that we should all have autonomy and agency of our own bodies and that the decisions we make about what we do with our bodies are ours to make and should not be governed or policed. I believe in true feminist ideologies- that we are all created and should be treated equally and be given a fair chance in equity. I have no place for TERFs in my life. I have spent a lot of time rooting for and protecting underdogs. From those bold statements you probably already have a good feel for who I am.
Let me go further, of all the beliefs I have, the one that is the most personal, is the concept that we only leave memories behind. And if someone remembers us, we keep living. But once every memory of us is gone, we’re gone. That’s dark, I know, but the point in telling you this is to say that I believe that the most important part of our lives, the one thing that will make the most difference, and one that we all have the ability and opportunity to do, is to create memorable relationships with others. Our relationships are our legacy.
Intimacy, closeness, connection, attunement, fitting in, and belonging are what we need to calm and settle our souls. Drowning out the noise to be able to allow ourselves to tune inward and find our own core desires is what I do as a sex and intimacy coach. Move past any shame and guilt, apprehension, and tap into your curiosity. Learn the skills and gain the knowledge about something you’ve been fantasizing about. If you think about a therapist that works with clients helps you find answers to the “who, what, where, and why”, I specialize in the showing your “how”.
For non-vanilla or beige curious folx- I have spent time either personally or professionally, learning everything I can through experience while honoring personal boundaries. I am a member of the LGBTQIA+ community and specialize in BDSM, kink, and D/s. I have also been in poly, ENM, and RA relationships But that doesn’t have to be your “thing” to work with me and still achieve your goals! I have advanced training in couples work, menopause and andropause (in regards to sex /sexuality and relationships).
Where you find a relationship with connection and intimacy, you’ll find the opportunity for peak sexual experiences- you’ll also be able to find compassion, empathy, patience, and support with and for yourself!
