Hey there! I know personal coaching of any kind can be overwhelming sometimes. Taking that step towards something you feel you really need and want but also knowing that there is going to be some hard work ahead can take some gearing up before making the decision. I get it! But let me assure you that if you’ve landed here and found me, you are already doing it!
I’ve been helping and coaching others to feel good for as long as I can remember. It’s who I am, not just a career choice. I’ve turned it into a career because people, how relationships work, and encouraging people became a special interest for me from a young age, I don’t even remember it happening. It was likely something I paid attention to so that I could feel like I “fit in” somewhere. (if you are neurodivergent you get this)!
Intimacy is such an important part of relationships that I decided to focus on that aspect. As I got further along in life, it seemed that all around were people not having sex or not having satisfying sex. It was viewed as a chore or obligation and desire and pleasure were not concepts that were ever brought into conversations.
“Trust is like love. Both parties have to feel it before it really exists.”
Why I Do This
I want you to know that you are NOT the only one feeling this way, even though we don’t talk about it, others are right there with you. And even though media, music, and society would make you think that either everyone is having great sex or having great sex is not important, let me tell you that IT IS and you deserve to feel GREAT while having sex (and it’s possible)
I use somatic methods (I am a graduate of the Somatica Institute) but my methods are not as important as feeling a connection with me. Intimacy can be vulnerable and well, intimate, so you want someone you feel comfortable talking to.
As a sex and relationship empowerment coach, I can empower you in ways that a therapist doesn’t. We break down the cycles of relationships that seem to repeat. I teach you HOW to feel those happening or coming on. We work on your nervous system to calm it so you know you’re tapping into current feelings and not something from the past.
Empowerment happens by showing you how to connect with yourself and others and we’ll practice those skills together. We’ll create a relationship lab where we work and practice the pieces you’ve been missing or need some feedback on- in a healthy way with a securely attached, kind and compassionate coach that doesn’t judge your mistakes or your desires.
I got into this because I believe that sex and intimacy with others, can be incredibly healing and validating. It can be extraordinarily pleasurable too! We are passionate, sexual beings and it is ok to want sex to feel good or to want sex at all! It’s also ok if right now you don’t want it but you want to want it.
What I Bring with me
Connection and Attunement: Emotional attunement is key to building strong and lasting relationships. It helps us forge deeper, more understanding relationships, enriching our lives and making our emotional landscapes more compassionate and fulfilling. The desire and the ability to understand and respect your partner's inner world.
Vulnerability: I won’t pretend to have it all figured out. Just as any coach does, I look for what areas need work and then together we practice those skills through coaching somatic (and other) exercises. I share emotions and erotic energy with clients as well as my own weaknesses, processes of growth, and mistakes. This is mindfully done on my part to take away any hierarchal structure that may exist between a client and facilitator.
Empathy: Putting myself in your shoes to deeply feel what you feel. Being able to support and honor, but not take away, your pain. I show clients tools for emotional self-awareness, self-soothing, and how to invite others to their support system.
Self-awareness. To break away from habitual patterns, I identify my personal shortcomings and strengths. It allows me to get comfortable with differences between myself and others, and helps me make choices that bring love, connection, pleasure, and intimacy into lives.
Embodiment: I am constantly learning to listen to my own embodied voice and help clients get out of their heads and into their own bodies to live in harmony with themselves and others. I embrace, rather than push down or aside, my unique feelings and emotions. I use my heart’s voice and my body’s mind to lead me in sessions.
ME: you get me as Heidi, as myself, pure and authentic. I won’t mislead you. I’ll tell you the truth and I’ll let you know when something feels off. My level of integrity is a practice in mindfulness because I want you to feel comfortable telling me something feels off to you too. The relationship lab depends on us being real with one another.
““ I prefer to think of my [clients] and myself as fellow travelers a term that abolishes distinctions between ‘them’ (the afflicted) and ‘us’ (the healers)…
We are all in this together and there is no therapist and no person that is immune to the inherent tragedies of existence.””