1. What is a Sex and Relationship Coach, and how can Heidi Oh help me?

A Sex and Relationship Coach helps you deepen your connection with yourself and your partner(s) by exploring intimacy, communication, and vulnerability. With me, Heidi Oh, it's all about diving into the messy, gooey stuff (yes, we all have it!). I guide you in learning how to feel your emotions, communicate them confidently, and strengthen the bond with yourself and your partner. We'll work together to create a space where desire can thrive, and intimacy feels safe and exciting again!

2. Who should seek out sex and intimacy coaching?

Anyone who feels like something is missing or could be better in their intimate life can benefit from coaching! Whether you're struggling with communication, sex, emotional intimacy, or even just feeling disconnected, we can work through that. If you're curious about reigniting your spark, exploring new facets of intimacy, or working through relationship challenges, coaching with me is a great next step.

3. Can Heidi help me if I’m struggling with desire or sexual satisfaction?

Absolutely! Many couples or individuals find that over time, desire can wane, or sexual satisfaction isn't what it used to be. I'm here to tell you: that's normal, and we can work on it! I’ll help you reconnect with your body, rediscover what turns you on, and teach you how to share that juicy (yes, I said it!) info with your partner in a way that deepens intimacy.

4. Is sex coaching the same as therapy?

Nope! As a coach, I don’t dive into diagnosing or healing past trauma in the way therapy does. Instead, I focus on your current goals and future desires. Coaching with me is more about learning skills, practicing new ways to connect, and feeling your way through your emotions (which can get delightfully messy). Think of me as your guide to more fun, ease, and exploration in your relationship and sex life.

5. What if my partner and I are struggling to communicate?

This is such a common issue, and it's one of my specialties! Relationships are built on communication, but sometimes we get stuck in unhelpful patterns. I can help you and your partner learn to truly listen and express your needs in ways that bring you closer, not further apart. We’ll practice talking about everything from daily frustrations to your deepest desires with compassion, curiosity, and even humor!

6. How does Heidi help couples regain intimacy after life changes like having kids or menopause?

Major life changes can make intimacy feel tricky, but they can also be opportunities for growth and deeper connection. As someone passionate about post-menopause intimacy and changes after major life transitions, I help couples navigate these shifts with grace. We’ll work on creating new ways to connect, rediscover pleasure, and build a relationship that evolves beautifully as your life does.

7. Do I need to be in a relationship to benefit from sex and intimacy coaching?

Not at all! The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. I help individuals get in touch with their desires, build confidence, and create the kind of intimate life they want—whether that includes a partner or not. Learning how to be vulnerable, present, and connected with yourself is the foundation for every other relationship in your life.

8. What if my partner and I are interested in exploring kink or BDSM but don’t know where to start?

Exploring kink and BDSM is an exciting journey, and I’m here to help you and your partner navigate it safely and playfully! Whether you're curious about Shibari (my personal fave) or just dipping your toes into the world of kink, I'll guide you in creating trust, setting boundaries, and communicating your desires. It's all about enhancing your connection while having a ton of fun in the process.

9. Can Heidi help us with sexual challenges after menopause or other physical changes?

Absolutely. Many people experience shifts in their sexual response, desire, or intimacy after physical changes like menopause, and that's something I specialize in. I'll work with you to embrace these changes with compassion, while also helping you explore new ways to connect with your partner and rediscover pleasure. Intimacy can evolve in wonderful ways as our bodies change!

10. What does a typical coaching session look like with Heidi?

A coaching session with me is a mix of real talk, laughter, and deep exploration. We'll start by discussing what’s going on in your intimate life and where you want to go. Then, we’ll dive into experiential exercises, from somatic practices that get you in touch with your body to conversational tools to improve communication. Every session is customized to your needs, and I promise it’s not as scary as it sounds—by the end, you’ll feel empowered, connected, and ready for more.

11. What is sex coaching NOT?

Sex coaching is not therapy, nor is it medical treatment. While we talk about intimacy, pleasure, and relationships, I don’t diagnose or treat mental health disorders. I'm also not a doctor—so I won't be prescribing medications or addressing any physical medical issues directly. My role is to guide you through emotional and relational challenges with practical tools and somatic techniques, helping you feel more confident and connected. Together, we’ll focus on the present and future, not diving deep into past trauma or medical diagnoses.

12. Is sex coaching the same as a physical or sexual service?

No way! Sex coaching is about helping you discover your desires, improve communication, and deepen intimacy with yourself or your partner(s). There is no physical touch between coach and client. My sessions are completely conversation-based and experiential in nature, meaning I guide you through practices you can try with your partner (or solo), but they’re for you to explore on your own time. In Kansas City, I’m here to create a safe space for personal and relational growth—nothing more, nothing less!

13. Is sex coaching appropriate for people of all orientations and lifestyles in Kansas City?

Absolutely! My coaching practice is open to individuals and couples of all gender identities, sexual orientations, and relationship styles—from traditional monogamous couples to those exploring Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) and kink. Kansas City has a wonderfully diverse community, and I’m here to support you no matter where you are on your journey toward deeper intimacy and connection. You deserve to feel seen, understood, and empowered in your love life, regardless of how you define it.